I read the Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin and I’ve decided to create my own Happiness Project this year just to give me a constant nudge to think about what makes me happy and a reminder to keep doing those things.
Project begins by identifying personal commandments that you use or want to adopt for your life that encourage your own kind of happiness. Here are mine:
- Be the kind of woman I want my daughters to be
- Go Outside
- Forget the Past
- Let go, Let God
- Stay In Touch
- Fail often
- I am always more than enough
- Be silly, be playful
- First, mother yourself
- Be a haven, a sanctuary
- Be a treasure house of good memories
- Smile to yourself
- What other people think of me is none of my business
- There are no wrong choices
- All the heavy things, just let them go
- I am not a victim, I am a Creator of my beautiful life.
I like to look at these commandments at the beginning of the day or when I am feeling sad or stressed out.
Next step: Identify 12 areas from your life where you want to be more happy and fulfilled.
What are your personal commandments?
Dark memories and worries about the future woke me up this morning. Not cool. I know this happens to everybody and it sucks. It’s been happening to me more often the last few weeks. This is often a sign that I am not taking care of myself as best as I should. I am not taking care of my emotional health. I have a million excuses not to take care of my emotional health. Work has been busy and we’re still organizing our new place and trying to prepare for upcoming family events. Yes, I have tons of stuff going and I’m sure you do too. But taking care of ourselves is most important. Self preservation is so important. When the dark memories and worries start to come after me, it’s because I am not dealing with something or I am not expressing something that is bothering me. Just voicing my concerns about the future of things that may never happen can make me feel a lot better. My acts of self-preservation lies mostly in writing and affirmations. Getting up early and writing about what is on my mind and what I am feeling has served as a great release for me. The problem is that I do not do it every day and sometimes only once or twice a week. I need to take a step back and make my writing a priority in my day-to-day. My writing is not a luxury but a necessity to my peace and happiness.
Writing is my act of self-preservation.