Plan of Attack: Happiness (part 2)

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I read the Happiness Project and couldn’t help but love the organization of Gretchen Rubin’s plan to make yourself happier. Not all people are going to love such a systematic approach to happiness but it appealed to me and my personality. After establishing your personal commandments for the year, you establish the 12 areas of your life you would like to see an increase in happiness. Each area will be a focus for each month of the year.

These are mine:

January: Tidy up your life

February:  Health & Fitness


March: Self Care & Exploration


April: Companionship


May: Passion Projects

June: Confidence


July: Nature

August: Friendships

September:  Spirituality


October: Leisure


November: Business


December: Reflection

Next Step: Break down the plan by month.

What areas of your life could you be happier?




Crawling out of the Darkness


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See you never, 2016.

I hear everyone saying that 2016 was the worst. Coincidentally, it was a tough year for me and it was not just because of the elections. However, the elections was some pretty disgusting icing on a cake straight out of the Trunchbull’s oven (read the book Matilda). This year was full of moves, new jobs, dealing with some painful family issues and relationship trouble. I was in the thick of it for about six months and I never want to be there again. But I know really important lessons come from pain and I need to look at 2016 as a teacher.

So what did I learn?

  • I do not have control over a lot of things. Like all external things. It is not my responsibility to fix everything and it’s okay. Focus on me and my inner calm.
  • Connecting with friends is so important for my own mental health.
  • Writing and journaling are my healers.
  • Worrying did not help any.
  • Kind people are the best!
  • Doing something different, something new, will help you.
  • Plan more next time when a transition is heading your way. You need it and deserve it.
  • Give yourself the time to transition and rest.
  • Sister are angels.

What did I accomplish?

  • I moved closer to family and I see my sisters more often
  • I journal more
  • I read more books
  • I am earning the highest income ever and saving roughly 50% of my income.
  • I found a job with coworkers I like
  • I started a blog with my sisters
  • I have a new and lovely home.

What do I want for 2017? I am still designing my master plan for this year but I am really excited and optimistic and unicorns and rainbows are involved. Yes, that excited.

Yoga like mine

Yoga like mine

I started yoga years ago, it’s a practice I take breaks from but always find myself coming back to. At first I used it for my constant back pain, picked it up again in college for pure enjoyment, third time around was for the depression and anxiety. This last phase was ignited once again by the depression. After practicing yoga for a couple months in how I was originally taught, I decided to try something different inspired by one of my favorite yoga teachers. y1During our practice she would turn on an amazing playlist. It wasn’t the traditional soothing yet energetic instrumental songs most play during yoga. Some songs were sweet, melancholic, energizing, uplifting but still had a mellow melodies to them. It helped with concentration and it tapped into my emotions, checking in on things I’ve been holding on to or truly feeling but hiding/ignoring. So when it was time to leave town, I had memorized the flow of the practice and had also started a playlist of my own with similar melodies if not more melancholic. These days I am still very much in need of yoga  that calms and centers me, but I am a person who needs to physically exert my stress and frustrations through high intensity activities. After accidentally adding a Run the Jewels song into my usual yoga playlist and it coming on during my practice I just continued with it. My pace became faster, I began to change my sequences to more challenging poses, my breaths deeper and I loved it. Yoga had made me feel strong and healthy but ever since I’ve made another playlist with less conventional yoga music I have felt more empowered. –Bella